Stolen Shots 101

What’s Wrong With Dating Secretly?

2012-02-12T02:49:00.000-08:00

IF SOMEONE you were attracted to made such a suggestion, how would you respond? You might be surprised to learn that, at first, Jessica went along with Jeremy’s plan. “I was convinced that if I dated him, I could make him learn to love Jehovah,” she says. How did things turn out? We’ll find out later. First, let’s see how even an otherwise exemplary Christian youth like Jessica could unwittingly get caught in the snare of secret dating.

Why They Do It?
Some youths pair off at an early age. “I have seen children with boyfriends and girlfriends at 10 or 11!” says Susan, in Britain. Why are they so eager? The natural attraction of the opposite sex and a dose of peer pressure—often that’s all it takes. “Your hormones are rushing and everyone else at school is going out with someone,” says Lois, in Australia.

But why do some date secretly? “Probably they’re scared of what their parents will say,” says Jeffrey, in Britain. David, in South Africa, feels similarly. “They know their parents would not approve,” he says, “so they don’t tell them.” A girl in Australia named Jane points out another possibility. “Secret dating is a rebellion thing,” she says. “If you feel that you’re not being treated like the young adult you think you are, you decide that you’re going to do what you want and just not tell your parents. Keeping it a secret is easy.”

Of course, the Bible commands you to obey your parents. (Ephesians 6:1) And if your parents object to your dating, they must surely have good reasons. For example, if they are Jehovah’s Witnesses, your parents would want you to date only a fellow believer—and then only when both of you are in a position to consider marriage.# Don’t be surprised, though, if you find yourself thinking:

I feel left out because everyone is dating except me.
I’m attracted to someone who doesn’t share my faith.
I would like to go out with a fellow Christian, even though I’m too young to marry.
You probably know what your parents would say about these statements. And deep down, you know that your parents are right. Still, you may feel like Manami, in Japan, who says: “The pressure to date is so strong that I sometimes doubt my stand. For kids today it’s unthinkable not to be dating.” Some in that situation have begun to date and have hidden the matter from their parents. How?

“We Were Told to Keep It a Secret”
The very term “secret dating” suggests a measure of deception. Some keep their dating secret by communicating primarily over the phone or the Internet. In public they are just friends, while their e-mails, text messages, and phone calls tell a completely different story.

Caleb, in Nigeria, reveals another sly tactic. “Some youths who secretly date use code words and nicknames when they are talking among their peers so that others will not grasp what they’re talking about,” he says. Another method is to arrange for a group activity, only to pair off later. James, in Britain, says: “Once, a group of us were invited to meet at a location, only to discover that the whole thing had been set up so that two in the group could be together. We were told to keep it a secret.”

Frequently, as James points out, secret dating is carried out with the cooperation of friends. “At least one friend knows about the situation but chooses not to say anything because of a ‘don’t-tell’ mentality,” says Carol, in Scotland.

Often, blatant dishonesty is involved. “Many keep their dating secret by lying to their parents about where they go,” says Beth, in Canada. Misaki, in Japan, admits that she did just that. “I had to make up stories carefully,” she says. “I was cautious not to tell any lies other than those related to my dating so that I would not lose my parents’ trust.”

The Pitfalls of Secret Dating
If you are tempted to date secretly—or if you are already doing so—you need to consider the following.

Where will my deceitful course lead? Do you intend to marry the person reasonably soon? “Dating without the intention of marriage is like advertising something you’re not selling,” says Evan, in the United States. Proverbs 13:12 says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” Do you really want to make someone you care about sick at heart?

How does Jehovah God feel about what I am doing? The Bible says that “all things are naked and openly exposed to the eyes of him with whom we have an accounting.” (Hebrews 4:13) So if you’re covering up your own dating—or that of a friend—Jehovah already knows about it. And if deception is involved, you have good reason to be concerned. Jehovah God feels strongly about lying. Indeed, “a false tongue” is listed prominently in the Bible among the things that he detests.—Proverbs 6:16-19.

Really, if you date secretly, you rob yourself of the protection that you can have when your relationship is aboveboard, out in the open. Not surprisingly, some who secretly date fall into sexual misconduct. Jane, in Australia, tells of a friend who secretly dated a boy from school and led a double life. “By the time her dad found out she had a boyfriend, she was pregnant,” Jane says.

Certainly, you would do well to talk to your parents or a mature Christian adult about any secret relationship that you may be involved in. And if you have a friend who is dating secretly, do not share in his or her course by helping to cover it up. (1 Timothy 5:22) After all, how would you feel if the relationship had harmful consequences? Would you not be at least partly responsible? Suppose a friend who is diabetic is secretly eating sweets. What if you found out about it, but your friend begged you not to tell anyone? What would be your most important concern—covering up for your friend or taking action that could possibly save his or her life?

The same is true if you know someone who is dating secretly. Don’t worry about permanently ruining your friendship! In time, a true friend will realize that you were acting in his or her best interests.—Proverbs 27:6.

“I Knew What I Had to Do”
Jessica, mentioned at the outset, changed her mind about dating secretly when she heard the experience of another Christian who was in the same situation. “After hearing how she broke off the relationship,” Jessica says, “I knew what I had to do.” Was breaking up easy? No! “This was the only boy I had ever really liked,” Jessica says. “I cried every day for several weeks.”

Yet, Jessica knew something else—that she loved Jehovah and that although she had got sidetracked, she truly wanted to do what was right. In time, the pain of breaking up subsided. “Now,” Jessica says, “my relationship with Jehovah is better than ever. I’m so grateful that he gives us the direction we need at just the right time!”

GOT THIS FROM watchtower.org

...bEacH piX....

2008-11-04T06:00:00.000-08:00

here's some of the pics i took yesterday...!!!hihihi

ill be posing other pics...next time..!!!

...sToLeN sHoT101....

2008-11-03T06:00:00.000-08:00

very stolen shot..!!!hihihi

hmmmp...is that me..???it doesn't seem so...!!hihihi i look tall in that pic..!!!hehehe
wish ko lang...hihihi

...mE..!!??...

2008-11-01T05:00:00.000-07:00

ate anniniput made this for me...!!!nyahaha..!!!

tell me... am i gorgeous.?? or am i dashing.?? or am i simply beautiful..?? nyahahaha

thanx to imikimi...^__^...for making this possible...hehehe
but one thing ill assure you, my face is not edited...true..!!! the body (lang nga) is not mine...hihihi

...sAnD, sUnSeT, wAvEs- bEaCh...!!!...

2008-10-31T19:35:00.000-07:00

Were going to the beach this afternoon…!!Yup yup yup….we will be going to the beach..!!!! nyahaha

Beach beach beach…I really missed the beach…!!!!!i think we’ll stay there until the night falls…hmmm yahoo…hope to see the sunset…^__^…

that's all for now...i hope i can post our pics asAp...!!hihihi

Pilates for scoliosis…^__^…

2008-10-30T18:41:00.000-07:00

4 years ago, I was diagnosed with mild scoliosis… our school doctor told me that its not severe so I can still do something about it…with the correct posture, less weights, drinking high calcium milk and a little bit of flexing and stretching I can do away with my scoliosis problem in no time…he advised me to try pilates, but since I was under age then, I have waited for 4 years to start my pilates sessions…

now, 4 years later..??? hmmmppp im enjoying my pilates sessions with my cousin anniniput….we do pilates atleast 3 times a week…thanx to her I was not able to have it yesterday, since she took my dvd without informing me…hehehe (te jel iuli na plsss…^__^…) well, I can do it maybe later this afternoon…

..i'm back...

2008-10-30T18:37:00.000-07:00

hihihi....my thesis is done nah...!!!

yup...!!!im back....

no pwobs and worries anymore...!!!hihihi...kaya i hope i can focus on my blogging carreer now...nyahahaa

my best friend...

2008-07-25T06:49:00.000-07:00

a best friend is a real gift from Jehovah God...

yup let me tell you something about my best friend memet...

we have been friends since the day i was born...hihihi...no I'm not exaggerating...that's true..!!

actually she's 11days older than i am...when she was born, her mother stayed in the hospital for few more days since she was ill...so my mother, 9-month pregnant of me that time, brought her home...come to think of this, cause my mom used to carry memet, even when i was still in her tummy,so memet and i were already close to each other, eveen before i was born...nyahaha...^__^...

since we were neighbors, after i was born, we (memet and I) are given a bath one after another and we were putted to sleep side by side...

we grew up,this way...playing together, taking a bath together, having the same dress as if were twins, we also tried to bully other children ...nayahaahah....

hmmm...now..??? 19 years after, and we are still together...hehehe...

actually just today i got, hmmmm i got 4 comments from her in my friendster account...i want to share this to you...
isn't she sweet..??hehehe...basta what i know is, even if sometimes shes moody, i still really do enjoy her company....i hope this friendship lasts forever( sa paradise met nuh..??!hehhe)....

High Speed Photography

2008-07-22T15:07:00.000-07:00

i was surfing tyinr to find pictures of Jose Rizal and some related pics for my power point report in my history class, when i bumped into this picture....

High-speed photography
Specialist high-speed cameras can capture moments too quick to spot with the naked eye, such as this bullet whizzing through a raw egg.

technology today are really soaring high beyond imagination....!!!!salute to the inventors and scientists...keep up the good work...!!!!just do everything for the betterment of the world and specially the human kind....

picture from Microsoft Children's Encarta

Philippine National Costume

2008-07-10T14:34:00.000-07:00

I got this tag from kuya Marvz18 calling all Filipino citizens to vote for the Philippines’ national costume at the Miss Universe 2008 in Vietnam.

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A tag for ALL Filipinos!

The 2008 Miss Universe comes to Vietnam for a night of stars and glamor in search of the most beautiful woman in the world! The winner for Best National Costume will be decided by online votes. So now, the main objective of this tag is to increase awareness for all Filipinos regarding the online voting. Let's VOTE for our very unique Philippine National Costume worn by our representative, Jennifer Barrientos.

General Instructions:

Go to THIS LINK!
In the Menu Bar just above the thumbnail pictures of the delegates, click ASIA/AUSTRALIA.
Look for the Philippines' Costume (like the picture above & it's actually in the page 2).
Click its thumbnail.
After clicking, a preview will then appear on the right side of the page. Click "SELECT THIS DELEGATE" located just below that preview.
The bad things is, we are to choose 3 delegates! So be sure NOT to vote for those countries that will surely be a strong competitor for the AWARD! :)
After choosing the Philippines and the "other" two countries, click on "SUBMIT VOTE" located just below the thumbnail pictures.
Follow the SIMPLE instructions after that!
You're done! Go Philippines!

IMPORTANT REMINDERS:

As much as possible, TAG all your FILIPINO friends.
Copy this post from ***start here*** until ***end here***.
Also invite your foreigner friends to vote for our national costume! LOL.
Add your blog link below as a proof that you are one of the TEAM PHILIPPINES!

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The Team Philippines
Miss Universe 2008
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I am tagging YOU! Yes...you read it right.. Y-O-U! :)
Copy this post now! :)

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problems with our thesis...

2008-07-05T20:39:00.000-07:00

hmmmm...for how many days now, we have been worrying about our thesis...until now we don't have our own topics (since its individual...huh its really hard...)...each of us must have 2 topics, which are different from our classmate's...
huh, well here's some pics taken, during the time of our dilemma...hihihi

hello there....busy..???

gie take it easy....

cath......????
are you really thinking or
making a pose..???hehehe

vine, ayaw
pagbuot buot oi..!!hey, help me pls..??gev,
dont take it too hard...!!
give us a pose..^__^

silly right..??taking pictures while trying to study...??!!!hehehe
hope we can successfully finish our thesis....

this thesis thing is a headache...!!!

2008-07-04T14:03:00.001-07:00

hmmmm...we met with our seminar paper adviser yesterday, actually it was the first time... a little orientation, get to understand parts, clarifications, what to do, how to do, and a lots of this and that...

she told us to pass a summary of at least(or is it almost..??waaaah i can't remember...!!!!huhuhu....) two chosen topics, which is due on July18...

its seems like i really dont know what to, where ro start....!!!waaaah it really gives me headache....

can anybody help me on this..???huhuhhu...

when God dropped a paint box part 2

2008-07-04T05:35:00.000-07:00

why part 2..??hmmmm i posted the part 1 in my veniz....pls do visit veniz, the part 1 contains more amazing, wonderful pics of Jehovah God's creation...!!!

well, heres the other pics i got from the email ate anniniput sent me....

get ready to be amazed by God's incomparable creations.....

clear water reflection

radiant red, yellow, orange
in its perfect blend

water echos a magnificent view

hmmmm...waterfall...
hehehe..^__^flower's manifest
a large range of hues in its best amalgam

sun light illuminates
really beautiful sight

hmmmm...hope you liked the pics as much as i was taken back...^__^

pls visit veniz for more pics..^__^

project tile mosaic...!!!- side views...^__^

2008-07-02T01:49:00.000-07:00

i hope you read my post about PROJECT TILE MOSAIC FOR THE CSM WALK OF FAME in veniz....

while we were planning for the border and other additional design, we had time to play and do foolish things...hehehe we took some black colored tiles, broke it into small pieces and made our names out of it...^__^hehehe

here are the pics.....

which do you think is the cutest..???huh...???...hehehe

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2008-06-20T21:25:00.000-07:00

5 cents..??wow thats big....!!!

just click this link, Getclix ....to know more and to register for free...pls do click on that link for the referral...

hope we can all earn big bucks with our blogs...with Getclix its easy...!!!

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project puzzle 2

2008-06-20T20:16:00.000-07:00

Our project puzzle is at last done…!!!

yup....finished it last thursday by our fellow project puzzle member memet, she is our team leader actually(nyahahaha)...

i still cant post the pics of the finished product...cause our members(kuno) decided to have the pictorials on sunday...so that all member(kuno) will be present in our group picture...hehehe

now, i can share to you pics taken, while we were on our struggle(hihihi...as if...!!) to finish our project puzzle...

isnt this one cute..??

from floor to table

think..!!think..!!!

hope you can drop by here as soon as the photos are posted...

2008-06-16T07:16:00.000-07:00

i really like to listen to this song...no reason at all, not the message but i think the melody of this song....

WAY BACK IN TO LOVE

[Verse 1](Drew Barrymore)
I've been living with a shadow overhead,
I've been sleeping with a cloud above my bed,
I've been lonely for so long,
Trapped in the past,
I just can't seem to move on!

(Hugh Grant)
I've been hiding all my hopes and dreams away,
Just in case I ever need them again someday,
I've been setting aside time,
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind!

[Chorus](Both)
All I want to do is find a way back into love.
I can't make it through without a way back into love.
Oooooh.

[Verse 2](Drew Barrymore)I
've been watching but the stars refuse to shine,
I've been searching but i just don't see the signs,
I know that it's out there,
There's got to be something for my soul somewhere!

(Hugh Grant)
I've been looking for someone to shed some light,
Not somebody just to get me through the night,
I could use some direction,
And I'm open to your suggestions.

[Chorus](Both)
All I want to do is find a way back into love.
I can't make it through without a way back into love.
And if I open my heart again,
i guess I'm hoping you'll be there for me in the end!
Oooooooh, Ooooooh, Ooooooh.

[Middle-eight](Drew Barrymore)
There are moments when
I don't know if it's real
Or if anybody feels the way
I feel I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation

[Chorus](Both)
All I want to do is find a way back into love,
I can't make it through without a way back into love,
And if I open my heart to you,
I'm hoping you'll show me what to do,
And if you help me to start again,
You know that I'll be there for you in the end!
Oooooooh. Oooooooh. Ooooooooh. Oooooooh. Ooooooh Ooooooooh. Ooooooooh.

hehhehehe...all i wanna do is find a way back into love...(asus..!!! plastic...!!)hehehe

2008-06-16T01:47:00.000-07:00

thanx ate maricel for this tag...

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Instructions:
1. Copy and paste this tag from "Start Here" to "End Here". (don't forget the image)
2. Place your blog's name with your URL at the end of the tag. If you have more that one blog, please add them too! Just make sure that you post this tag in all of your blogs.
3. Tag 5 blogs that is not yet in this post (just to avoid duplications ^_^ )
4. This is the twist... Go to the 5 blogs that you tagged and comment on any of their posts. Why? So that search engines can crawl to your site. ^_^
5. Return to the Momhood Moments blog and leave a comment saying that you joined the tag together with the URL of the tag. I'll be checking on it and add you in the master list.Momhood Moments Tags You List: (updated June 13, 2008 10:14pm GMT+8)
1. Momhood Moments 2. Business Mars 3. Concealed Mind 4. http://www.ritzie.info/ 5. Personal Development Blog For Money 6. Vhiel's Corner 7. Anything and Everything in Between 8. Can of Thoughts 9. moms..... check nyo 10. Pinay dot US 11. My Blog Entry 12. Byaheng Pinay 13. The Sweet Life 14. A Mother's Journal 15. Welcome to my World 16. Thoughts of Mine 17. Pheandy's blog 18. stolen shots 19.veniz-great things come in small packages 20.YOUR TURN
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now im tagging ate jerla, ate sheila, ate vannie, anniniput, and wendy.

2008-06-13T20:13:00.001-07:00

this is my first post for my second blog...i really dont know what to post now...

but maybe ill start this blog with an explanation....explanation..???funny huh..??!!

i just want to share why i chose this blog title, "stolen shots 101"... i have recieved a text message last January 31, this year....and it left a mark on my mind....

the message goes..

Life is like posing for pictures..

we pose the way we want 2 be seen by others...

but stolen shots are better,

they capture who we really are....

hehehe...that's the reason why i chose this title, its because, in this blog i want ot show who really am i...my views, and everything....hehehe